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mimitchigotchiNote: Some of this was mentioned in a previous post however I've had time to think and write more properly.
Oh... It is making sense now... I told my bf's mom that I didn't want her in my room while we were putting up the bed frame and cleaning. She said she wasn't in it and stood in the doorway instead being a pest. She is always looking for dirt on me to make herself feel good. My boyfriend said not to worry about it because she's literally looking for things to cause trouble about and that I don't actually do anything that merits 'dirt'.
Oh... It is making sense now... I told my bf's mom that I didn't want her in my room while we were putting up the bed frame and cleaning. She said she wasn't in it and stood in the doorway instead being a pest. She is always looking for dirt on me to make herself feel good. My boyfriend said not to worry about it because she's literally looking for things to cause trouble about and that I don't actually do anything that merits 'dirt'.
She gave me a cook book when we moved in and started raging over it being in my room when I only took it to be polite. Of course this was before I knew how narcissistic and petty she was. She said it was special to her or whatever and that I never used it and I shouldn't have it. She may have legit forgotten giving it to me or just wanted to cause issues. Either way, don't give people your special stuff.
Also just to note that she was extra snarky about me not cooking. She acts like me only helping my bf cook when he visits means that I'm lazy and not good enough for her son. At least my bf understands it's because she makes me too uncomfortable to even use the kitchen without him being there.
Also just to note that she was extra snarky about me not cooking. She acts like me only helping my bf cook when he visits means that I'm lazy and not good enough for her son. At least my bf understands it's because she makes me too uncomfortable to even use the kitchen without him being there.
Then she accused me of taking a framed photograph of my bf during the move. Which is bogus because even if he gifted it to her, he took it long before we even moved into the apartment and he gave it to me instead. So now she's saying I stole it even though it has been gone longer than she even said. If she cared about it so much she should have noticed it missing before. I'm sure it stings that he would rather me have it than her too. I would feel bad about it but she didn't give him much reason to want her to have it.
Also I referred to my stuff as garbage while cleaning because I call my collection that as a meme kinda joke cause it's mostly anime related and can be viewed as a cringe hobby to a lot of society. She immediately tried to swoop in saying that if I didn't want it that she would take it.
At some point during the process, she said to put all of my small and scattered stuff on her bed because the living room was full, which is dumb because it really wasn't much and only there temporarily. It got put there unfortunately by her being so pushy and later I flat out refused to go in her room to get them. I told her it wasn't my room and I didn't feel comfortable in there. So she tried to interrogate me. I told her I didn't need to give her a reason and that I was uncomfortable so that should be enough.
I gather upon further thought that she likely was trying to use the you can go in my room so I should be able to go into yours logic. As in there's nothing to hide. I'm not hiding anything. It's my personal space and I don't want anyone or anything that makes me uncomfortable in it.
Also, she went to work today and returned shortly after. I hope that she didn't flat out quit the job or get fired. She barely makes it on two part time jobs. Her family pays most of her portion of her living expenses. I feel like they might have cut her off already if I wasn't living with her. Oma talked me into moving in with her so maybe she feels somewhat responsible. I appreciate them helping both of us. They literally aren't obligated.
I try to see things from other people's point of view. It's hard for me to view things in a narcissistic, paranoid, and vindictive manner when it's not how I operate. I can try and sympathize with her having mental illness but only so much. When someone is not taking their meds and actively taking part of therapy to help themselves, others tend to give up trying to help them. Not everyone needs medicine and therapy. If you do though it's not a weakness. If you work with it then it's a strength. It shows that you can do well despite a disability of sorts.
Also I referred to my stuff as garbage while cleaning because I call my collection that as a meme kinda joke cause it's mostly anime related and can be viewed as a cringe hobby to a lot of society. She immediately tried to swoop in saying that if I didn't want it that she would take it.
At some point during the process, she said to put all of my small and scattered stuff on her bed because the living room was full, which is dumb because it really wasn't much and only there temporarily. It got put there unfortunately by her being so pushy and later I flat out refused to go in her room to get them. I told her it wasn't my room and I didn't feel comfortable in there. So she tried to interrogate me. I told her I didn't need to give her a reason and that I was uncomfortable so that should be enough.
I gather upon further thought that she likely was trying to use the you can go in my room so I should be able to go into yours logic. As in there's nothing to hide. I'm not hiding anything. It's my personal space and I don't want anyone or anything that makes me uncomfortable in it.
Also, she went to work today and returned shortly after. I hope that she didn't flat out quit the job or get fired. She barely makes it on two part time jobs. Her family pays most of her portion of her living expenses. I feel like they might have cut her off already if I wasn't living with her. Oma talked me into moving in with her so maybe she feels somewhat responsible. I appreciate them helping both of us. They literally aren't obligated.
I try to see things from other people's point of view. It's hard for me to view things in a narcissistic, paranoid, and vindictive manner when it's not how I operate. I can try and sympathize with her having mental illness but only so much. When someone is not taking their meds and actively taking part of therapy to help themselves, others tend to give up trying to help them. Not everyone needs medicine and therapy. If you do though it's not a weakness. If you work with it then it's a strength. It shows that you can do well despite a disability of sorts.
